Among really good times, still lurks a heavy darkness. Depression continues to change me. It changes my mind, my relationships, my job, my home, and the way I view the world. It just finished changing my job and my home (for now) and now it’s changing my perspective. Regardless of how difficult changing jobs and housing has been, it has been a pretty positive change in the long run. I realize how incredibly draining and toxic my work environment was. I’m learning how much I was under appreciated. Finding the perfect job for me showed me how much potential I have and how much I can achieve. Moving into a new apartment that’s not falling apart and hosts a fair rent is a bonus, despite moving pains. Overall, I am incredibly happy with the way things are going,
What still lurks beneath the surface? It’s the constant fear of something about to go wrong. It’s the sinister knowledge that life can be really shitty despite everyone’s best efforts. It’s knowing that the only reason I’m alive is from just a couple handfuls of tiny pills that are worth more than my car. It’s knowing that missing taking even just one of those pills on one single day could send my life in a tailspin. It’s knowing that no matter how many pills I take, how many therapy sessions I have, no matter how many coping skills I know, how many hospital visits I log, or how many doctors I talk to, I could still decide to end it all someday. Lurking inside is the unforgiving truth that despite my best efforts, I may live in the darkness of depression for the rest of my life.
All of these things become almost a side effect of depression. Because when depression isn’t consuming my mind, the weight of living with depression does. So yeah, things seem to be looking up, but I tread on eggshells. I’m learning to realize that my optimism can sometimes be my downfall. It’s realizing that the lower my expectations, the less likely I will be let down. Depression sucks, but if you’re forced to live with it, you have to learn to adapt to make life as pleasant as possible.